The End Of Door-Holding? Women Say They No Longer Need Help From Gentlemen

Survey results say the modern woman prefers her independence and has no longer come to expect chivalrous behaviour from men

Most women would prefer to pay for their dinner on a first date, and would not accept the offer from a man to carry her bags, according to new figures. Very few women said they would accept a seat on public transport if offered by a man, nor accept a gentleman's coat on a cold day, a survey by has concluded.

The figures show further strides in equality and independence, but are a disappointment for those to whom traditional displays of good manners are important, whatever the gender.

Mark Hall, Gentleman Creation Officer at a  sock subscription service for gentleman, saw not just the welcome rise in gender equality at work, but also other factors: "Men's standards have slipped so far over recent years that any offer of chivalry from a gentleman knocks a woman off their guard and is viewed with outright suspicion.

"Does an offer of goodwill have to be taken the wrong way? If men upped their game across the board, good manners would be back on the agenda once again. We've forgotten about good behaviour, and it's high time gentlemen stood up to be counted - especially on a crowded bus."

The survey results said:

82% of women said they would prefer to pay for their dinner on a first date

52% said they would happily pay for the entire bill on a first date

89% of women said they would not take up the offer from a man to carrying their bag

78% would not accept a coat from a man on a cold day

34% of women said they expect men to open doors for them 

8% said they would take up the offer of a seat if a man offered. In London, this figure was only 2 per cent. 

The survey also came up with some surprising answers:

41% of women agreed men should wear dresses

98% said they would like to be bought flowers, but only 32% had actually received flowers in the past twelve months, which helps gentlemen dress well and offers free tips in etiquette, believe that good manners cost nothing, and it is up to the gentleman to prove that courtesy is not dead in this second decade of the twenty-first century. 

"The figures show a drift away from what is viewed as acceptable behaviour," Hall said, "But why are we letting this happen? Your offer of an open door might be rejected, but so could the chance of friendship, respect, or a second date."


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